DSF 026: What Are We Teaching Kids?

DAYnamics Show Fundamentals 026. KID Dynamics: Are You Caring For the Well Being of Kids?. We discuss with Makoda about the intention of having kids and then once you have kids in your life, the why around them needing life values, virtues, themes and self-worth support alongside school subjects. We explore social media pressure, the power of defining words like love, and how conscious parenting can start as early as pregnancy.

• why KID Dynamics grows from a real gap in education and life skills 
• centering kids through daily choices and present-moment awareness 
• social media, comparison, and the rising challenge of self-worth 
• why definitions matter and how kids learn meaning through words 
• making KID Dynamics flexible for classrooms and home 
• PREGNANCY Dynamics, self-talk, soul agreements and communication before birth 

Links Supporting the Show:

KID Dynamics website page: https://dynamicsseries.com/kid-dynamics

Video:  Vehicle Video #82 - Introduction to KID Dynamics 

Blogs:   The Heart of KID Dynamics

Pregnancy Dynamics: A Journey of Conscious Creation & Connection

Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:00

Hello Dynamics community. It's your host Marianna, welcoming you to the Dynamics Show, where personal growth meets daily life in the most powerful ways. Here we know there's no one size fits all

Welcome To The Dynamic Show

SPEAKER_01 0:16

life, so each episode is designed to help you align with your unique essence and rhythm, embracing your dynamic self and creating a life that works on your terms. This is a space to gain fresh perspective, seize opportunities, and uncover the possibilities waiting for you. You're here for a reason, and you will hear what you need to. So let's dive in and explore what's possible together. Today our discussion recording will be about expanding the subject of one of our dynamics, Kid Dynamics. First time on this podcast. So I'm so excited about this. And I have the pleasure of being joined

Why Kid Dynamics Was Created

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by the reason why Kid Dynamics was created, and that is Makota.

SPEAKER_00 1:08

Nice to have me here, I guess. Very excited.

SPEAKER_01 1:11

Nice to have you here. Yes. Yes. Thank you, thank you for being here. And it is because of you that we we meaning me and all the energy and ideas and thoughts and energy that came through around. Two, three, four o'clock in the morning, I'd be woken up to go, okay, put this in your kid dynamics program. Put this in your program. Like I'd be walking somewhere, I'd be like, Oh, here's an idea. Have you ever had that experience where it's just like you have something on your mind, you're creating something, and then you're just like, Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_00 1:47

Yes, that definitely happened when I was doing my master's thesis or my dissertation for my master's, and it was constantly thinking about what I needed to add or what I could fix for that part, or what I need to do before. So it's constantly waking up and writing ideas down or staying up late and trying to fix parts that I thought were best to fix.

SPEAKER_01 2:08

Yes. It's one of those things that when when you know you're in the creative mode, you just know. And kid dynamics, KID. Yes, I know that kid is an informal term for child, but it's way more accepted now, and we'll go over the definition in a while. Thank you again, Makorta, for being here. Thanks for being born into this world. So I could have one of my life themes and and purposes and passions come forward through really not being able to find what I wanted in a program, and that I felt like it was important to teach you along the way, not just the school subjects, you know, more about like life values and life themes and life skills and life everything that they don't necessarily teach you as a subject in education, but way more important about being a good person and you know what do you what did you feel about that now that you've been around it for a little bit?

SPEAKER_00 3:20

Well, I think especially now that I'm a teacher and I can see where it's lacking in the classroom as well, it's just I think it's been such a nice feeling to be able to teach the kids the things that I grew up on that felt normal and just part of my everyday life with kid dynamics and being able to teach that to my kids and teach them all those values and virtues and just to love themselves and to be able to talk to themselves in a positive way. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 3:50

I mean, there's so many aspects to it, and we'll go over it, but before we get into that, we always like to set the tone first because this is more than just a podcast, it's a space to remind you that within each one of us flows this dynamic energy ready to be embraced, shaped, co-created with every single day. Like life is daily, life is actually secondly, second minutes, hours, you know, gets into that whole thing because it's just a full unfoldment and you the power is always in the now moment. So in the now second we put it as daily because a lot of people they go to sleep and when they wake up it's a new day for them. That's why we use daily. And that is why the day in dynamic show is capitalized, because again, it's making daily choices to live dynamically. So let's take that moment and center ourselves, take a deep breath in and out and become fully present in this second and listen with an open heart and mind because here's the thing we all know, and if you don't know, we'll remind you right now, what we focus on expands, it's law of attraction, and every day is a chance to become more of our true dynamic selves. Why this subject of kid? And if you don't know the whole story, go to dynamicsseries.com slash kid or go to kiddynamics.com and it'll it'll forge you to that.

Adults Healing Starts With Kids

SPEAKER_01 5:37

It was in a meditation that I realized that why do we spend so much time as adults or like young adults and then into our adulthood trying to get over stuff that happened to us in childhood. But because we weren't conscious enough, we weren't taught, we weren't whatever it is, this is not a lack thing, just so you know. Anyone that's gonna say, Oh, they're talking about lack No, it's not a lack thing. What it is is just being conscious enough now that if you are dealing with the well-being and wellness of children in any manner to have values and virtues and life themes and stuff just as important, being a good person, starting with yourself, to yourself, is one of them. But everyone is constantly evolving in and a child, children, kid, whatever it might be, is not any less important than anyone else in this world. So that's really a good thing to remember along the way. What as far as why you find kid dynamics would be helpful to have a part of people's lives, informally or formally.

SPEAKER_00 7:00

That's a really good one. And I think the biggest reason, or one of the biggest reasons that I notice is the the increase of electronics in the lives of kids. I think that a lot of time it has become a lot harder

Screens, Social Media, And Self-Worth

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for kids to feel centered in themselves because they see social media, they see how they're supposed to maybe grow up or the things that they're lacking through the experience of other people, which is something I didn't have when I grew up. You know, we didn't have social media or we didn't have other kids that we could watch and see how much better their lives were compared to ours, and you know, think that we're lacking in some way. And especially because I teach at a school that a lot of kids don't have a lot, it I think it only incentivizes that even more because they think that, you know, they need more than they actually have. And it's so important when I think of kid dynamics to make them realize how important every little thing that they have is, and that they don't need, you know, the newest iPhone or iPad or video game or, you know, toy cars. It's making it seem so important to have the little things. I know that I had a student that was obsessed with axolotls, and every single time that anything came up with axolotls, she would just, you know, beam and glow up. And so I remember giving her a sticker. There was an axolotl that I found in my, you know, sticker pouch thing that I bought for this this classroom. And she cherished that for the rest of the year. She always talked to me about it and she is always thankful to me. And it's so it's just putting emphasis on being appreciative of what you have and you know, respecting what you do have and taking care of it. And I think also for me, I've had to grow up with that too, and realizing that I don't always need things, and it's more important to have experiences and have knowledge and not always have to fill my life up with stuff.

SPEAKER_01 8:49

Yes. Very well said, and thank you for sharing. And we realize now as Makoda's going through some clearing out of stuff, is that and when it gets right down to it, it's just stuff.

SPEAKER_00 9:04

Yeah. Yeah, it's true. It's like that there's things that I've had in boxes for years, and then I looked at it and it's like, oh, I I did have that. Or we just realized that I had about 20 lip balms that I don't need, or that I've just bought throughout the years, or didn't, you know, where I could find one because it's sometimes in your brain, or at least for me, it was, oh, I couldn't find one in that specific moment, or I didn't have one with me that specific time. So I feel like I need to get more instead of finding one or figuring out where they are, because I knew I had lip balm somewhere. Yes.

SPEAKER_01 9:37

All right, so we always like to define for the word kid is I I find it interesting with the dictionary definition of it, because we always like to try several different people, places, things, nouns,

Defining Kid And Meaning

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verbs, all that stuff when it comes to a word of a dynamic that we're using. So I looked up kid and it says a child or younger person up to 12, because then at 13 you become a teenager and you're no longer a kid. Also means a young goat. And it's interesting because even before we used Billy, and Billy's our mascot, which is a young goat, uh, even before that, I I always thought about kid dynamics and ha and and a goat, because I'd seen one at a zoo we were at one time, like way back, and I just thought, oh, it is such a cool little animal, and I think it would just represent it. And I saw a kid playing with it, and I thought, oh perfect. And then I come to realize that, yeah, in fact, that's one of the definitions. As a verb, playfully tease or joke for kid, you know, kid around, fool around, joke around. A noun, a child. The word child itself says it goes back to the 1590s in England, where kids used to be a slang word. You know, it was like disrespectful to call a child a kid. But now it's like it's just formal, informal, it all depends who you're talking to, the way you're talking to them, and and how is it referring it to them as far as like a person versus a goat. So so you know, when you're looking at Google and vocabulary.com and AI and uh Merriam Webster, that's why I always say to everyone, please just do your own research, even after listening to this, so you can get clear about what you would like to have a definition mean for you based on some of the factual definitions that come from various resources. That is part of the beginning of our podcast. How are you feeling already? Feeling pretty good. Excited to continue. Good. Thank you. So, Makoda, let's just discuss a little bit what you've felt now that obviously you're 27 and you're hearing for so many years and being part of the Kid Dynamics program, and actually doing

Makota On Teaching And Revamping

SPEAKER_01 12:22

the editing and revamping of Kid Dynamics program to help facilitate it more into the formal educational system as well as still having it for the informal as well. How do you feel after all of this, knowing that this was all based on you? And then when I'm no longer in this physical plane, it all goes to you. All everything, every resource, everything that comes around Kid Dynamics, and probably Dynamics series too. Hopefully, you'll take over the dynamic show. Oh, gosh. That's many, many years from now, but who knows where it'll evolve to it by that point. How do you feel knowing that something so incredible that has helped so many people have was made in your onic?

SPEAKER_00 13:18

It feels weird, uh, for sure, but it's also very inspiring because it makes me realize that my mother and you know the people that surrounded her at the time were open to it and that there was something there. Because sometimes you'll just get ideas and they won't go anywhere, and that's fine, because sometimes you'll just have, you know, throwaway thoughts. But it's the fact that, you know, she put the time and commitment in to make it something that is tangible, something that she, you know, was able to teach the students, teach other facilitators to do, and that it was substantial enough. Because especially when you think about me being an educator, I think that really helped me help her on how to do it. Because I mean, she was doing it without any teaching experience back when I was a kid, and you kind of learned it along the way. Thankfully, that's you know how it is with teaching. Sometimes you just figured out with me being able to go back and revamp it and see how it could fit into, like she said, a daycare or a school setting more, you know, amply. It makes me really excited to be able to have that be full-fledged or something that people start buying into or want to incorporate into their classroom and something that when I go back to into teaching this new year, I want to try to incorporate more into my own classroom and just hopefully maybe it catches on that way. But it's very inspiring because it, you know, we're both very creative people, you know, even though I haven't made a kids' program, I've made a lot of other stuff, like for my master's degree or for school. We did a whole presentation that we, you know, presented in front of the whole region of our state, which was pretty cool for like 400 people. And I think it's so nice that that you know runs in the family. So I'm excited to see how I can continue to help her develop it and expand on it and that it's you know gonna only flourish more.

SPEAKER_01 15:07

Thank you. That's awesome. And the next thing I just want to discuss with you is because it was such a heartfelt thing, the kids thing, it's where all this dynamics series started. What do you think? Because you've been around kids for so long. I know you shared a little bit, but do you want to share a little bit further on the importance of having a program that focuses on the well-being of kids?

SPEAKER_00 15:36

That's a very, very big question. And I I think it very much depends on where you're living sometimes on how the importance is in classrooms and for kids. I think it's important for every kid to do. But you know, if you're a teacher or a

Helping Kids Define Words Like Love

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parent or someone in education, you might have a program that, you know, already kind of falls under some of the aspects of kid dynamics. But I think that that's a that's a beauty of it, is that you can take pieces out of kid dynamics and use it wherever, and you can do it for five seconds or you can do it for 20 minutes. And I think the core value of Kid Dynamics is not necessarily the activities or, you know, the products that we've made or anything like that. It's just the core understanding that kids need to know their value and their worth and what uh values and emotions and feelings and virtues, how to feel those things and express them and understand them and to be okay with them because a lot of kids don't really understand the meaning behind words. You know, you'll have kids in school I know that'll just say, you know, very negative words and they won't really understand what they're saying. They won't really understand why they're saying it, and they'll just, you know, repeat it from other people. And so if you can kind of turn that around with the use of kid dynamics and have it be something that they use kid dynamics as a way to learn those words better, then I think that's exciting to me, and that I think that's what every kid should be able to have as an experience is to know, okay, I know what love is because my parents say it, or you know, my grandparents say it, or I hear people around me saying it, but like what does what does love mean for them and how do they how do they express it in their eyes and not just what they think it should be?

SPEAKER_01 17:22

Or what do they prefer it to be because someone could be yelling at you and saying, I am doing this for you because I love you. Well, is is that love? Like we get mi a lot of mixed signals signals about what love is supposed to be. This is just using love because love is one of the themes in the Kid Dynamics program, because I think it's sometimes overused and sometimes misunderstood. And then sometimes in other aspects just you know you're loved, you know? Yes. And there there'll be times where, you know, people are in contrast with their emotions and just having that open communication with them instead of just it's just there's so many things about kids in general that that we really have to focus on them, not just their safety and their their well-being and their the regular subjects in school, but let's also talk about, like you said, the virtues, the values, who they are as a person, the importance of them, this dynamic energy, this essence of who they really are that's important and yeah, I think that's exactly it.

SPEAKER_00 18:36

I think a lot of kids they would say, Oh, you know, I love you and you're the best, but it's like, well, that's great, you know, because you you do all these things, but it's almost like some kids think that it's necessary, like that they have to say that or like it's needed. And it's just like sometimes you don't need to say it if you don't actually understand what those words mean. I I I wish that all the kids in the world were able to understand that the word that they say has a different meaning for everyone and that they need to figure out what that is for them and not what people say it is for them.

SPEAKER_01 19:08

Right. Which we were just talking about before that, even adults, because we've never sometimes taken the time to really go forward and understand that even more about what's the definition of a word, really. Like sit with your kids sometime and do some theme or core words that if you get the program or even like one one theme of the program that we're gonna be separating out when after we're done editing and revamping it, and and just take that time with the workbook and you know, look up definitions with them and and help them understand that one word, you know, because of a noun, a verb, what it you're the teacher. What is all of them? Noun, verbs, pronouns, pronouns, adjectives, prepositions, yeah, all of those things that it can have a slightly different meaning. And I think sometimes that that gets misused sometime. And I think it's really important to keep that open communication so you can have those good conversations.

SPEAKER_00 20:14

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 20:15

You feel that?

SPEAKER_00 20:16

Yeah, I do feel that for sure. Thinking about how that'll impact my own kids as well when I have them. It's just I'd love to have them grow up with kid dynamics as well. You know, even if it's just something that I do at home with them instead of doing the full program, just having them learn and have those conversations about what these words mean, and that, you know, just because I say it a certain way in a certain context doesn't mean that you feel the same way. You don't feel like you have to say it back or that you have to feel that way if I feel that way.

SPEAKER_01 20:44

Yeah, to honor the like where they're at. And I mean, kid dynamics, it started from age four. Four right up to twelve, and and continued for many people because they just took aspects of it. It's just like any subject and any subject matter to me. It's like you can learn it, but what are you taking from it? I can study something and memorize it and know it, but how am I using it in life? That's the real importance of all of this. These things that you're learning, these themes are are life core dynamics. I mean, look at dynamicsseries.com and go to dynamics and look at some of them, and some of those are the same things for kids too. Because just because we're an adult or senior, whatever it might be, doesn't mean that we're any less needing of remembering things about all these different core dynamics along the way. So that's why we did along with kid dynamics and around that, there's the pregnancy dynamics. Pregnancy is just such a big Thing because whether it's you that's caring for pregnancy or whether

Pregnancy Dynamics And Calm Communication

SPEAKER_01 22:05

it's another circumstance that allows you to have a kid come into your life, blessings to all of it. If it's you that's caring or even waiting to receive a child in some manner, is the thoughts that you think is really important before and waiting for this child to be actually physically born into this world. I know with Makoda when she was in my belly, I did not know, I did not find out whether or not whether she was female, male at the time. It didn't matter. What I wanted her to know is the love, and I talked to her all the time and and I would do affirmations for her, I would sing to her, I would think good thoughts, but when I didn't, when I was afraid sometimes, really she would kick me from the inside out, almost like getting my attention, going, stop thinking that way. It's you know, it's not good for me or for you. Like I remember a few times that that happened, and I thought, that's really funny. Yes. Yeah. Or you're already sharing my transformation while you're inside of me because this you as a soul came through me, and now you get to live your life from there. When you're pregnant, like there's so many people that are like, I'm worried, I'm worried, I'm worried, I'm worried, I'll-da-da-da-da. Like, what do you think you're doing to this baby that is growing inside you or more than one? Or even, like I said, if if it's not yourself that's carrying, how are you projecting that into the someone else that is carrying around that? So, how do you feel about the pregnancy part of the beforehand? You know, it's like setting the tone for your child to come into this world.

SPEAKER_00 24:05

Yeah. So, I mean, that's something that me and my fiance have talked a lot about, and also I've talked with my mom and other people in my life, even though almost everyone else that I know is already having a kid or is about to have a kid or is on their second kid, or maybe even their third, it's like, well, first off, it's everyone's journey specifically. It's not that I need to rush. Right.

SPEAKER_01 24:27

Never never rush, yeah. Because it was 30, 33 before I had you.

SPEAKER_00 24:33

Wow. Yeah. And most people that I know are already, you know, on their first or second kid and they're, you know, the same or younger than me. But I think that was the biggest thing for me to realize is that there's no stress, there's no rush. You do it when it's best for you. And I think, you know, at least for me, that's making sure that I'm financially stable, that we have a good place to live that can accommodate a child, that I feel like I can take the time off to take care of the kid or kids, maybe we'll see. And just feeling ready mentally. And I think if you're ready mentally and surrounding-wise, it makes it so much easier to feel prepared for the kid. If it's just like a oop, now I'm pregnant, and you know, sometimes that will happen to you. But it's like if you don't have those conversations with the people that you're, you know, wanting to have the kids with, that can become a very scary situation where you are putting stress on yourself. Like, of course, at a baseline, having a kid is a little stressful because it is, you know, you're bringing a a whole new person into existence, but it doesn't need to be something that you're anxiety ridden about.

SPEAKER_01 25:38

Right. So, what do you feel about, you know, this soul or whatever is growing in you to be a physical baby? And then we're telling everyone as whatever age you're at, good self-talk, your own wellness matters, and then you're taken care of and you see a baby growing. Wouldn't you want to be including those things to the baby and including them? Not that they're a separate entity, they're a part of you. But also like instead of oh, this and that, I'm worrying about being informed and worrying, two different things. How do you feel about the importance of how you're thinking about the baby itself, how you're talking to the baby, what you're doing? Like I see some parents are so fun, and like they they play music, the partner is like talking to the belly, rubbing the belly, doing those values and virtues ahead of time before it even gets here.

SPEAKER_00 26:47

Yes, and I think I think that's something I want to do as well. And I think it is very important because you know that calms you as well. Calms you and it makes you feel calm. So you imagine how that's helping your baby, you know, develop and become calm as well. And so I've already talked about wanting audio and like have them we were talking about playing music that we like, so hopefully they'll grow up and like the same music as us, and you know, reading books that we've cared about, and my mom said just making it not like some thing that doesn't exist yet. It's you know, it's still growing, and maybe it can't fully be conscious of everything that you're doing, but it's very subconscious. Those songs that you sing it or the things that you do will become kind of familiar to them when they, you know, fully are out of you and develop and all that. So I think it is very important to start off with those posities right from the get-go and knowing that that also calms you as well. So, how could it not calm your baby? Yeah, I I like that.

SPEAKER_01 27:47

And even the fact that it's okay, especially for your first pregnancy or any pregnancy, but especially the first time, if you have if you're the one carrying it, that you can have stuff come up. You can have fears, you can have this or that, you can have all the emotions that you need to. But instead of separating that from the baby, you talk to your baby about it. It's just like the open and honest communication between the a mother and their baby or child or children that's in there, depending how many. You can energetically even talk to your baby and hey, I'm having a rough day here, I'm feeling a little worried. You know, I got a different. We just came from the doctor and they said something a little different, or I'm a little afraid right now. Because also, you have to understand your hormones are all different, your body's changing, and and having you go through that process talking to the baby before it's even born is such a good foundation for when the baby is actually born, that you're in this together instead of okay, I'm the mother, that's the kid. You know, like it it's like a whole, no, this is part of my soul family. Why wouldn't I communicate on whatever level? Because I don't know about you, but you understood voices, you understood tones when you're a baby, you were under all of that right up until even now, right? You feel energy. So do you not think that the same thing is happening? This the pregnancy stage of before the kid is born.

SPEAKER_00 29:43

Yes, I d I definitely think so.

SPEAKER_01 29:45

It's very important. Yeah. And a lot of people do not think of that. Some are very consciously intentional about having a baby and doing it. Like for us, we we we did a cleanse before we talked about it first, made sure we're in the right headspace. We did a cleanse. Both of us did. We ensured that our wellness was really good, and then it was like, okay, it was time, and that was it. And Makota just she was ready.

SPEAKER_00 30:12

Yeah, and I think that's so important, is just it for those that are worried about it, is that it'll come when it needs to happen. And sometimes that takes a long time, and sometimes it's done unconventionally, like you know, having to adopt or having to foster or waiting really long amounts of time that that can be very frustrating. But it's like if a soul's meant to come into the world and to meet you, even if they're already on this planet, you know that they'll they'll find a way to you.

SPEAKER_01 30:39

So absolutely find a way to you, and there is no right or wrong around this. And our heart goes out to those 'cause again, there is just no right or wrong to it, whether you're doing it through your own means or whether you're doing it through adoption or foster or or taking over someone a role for someone. It it doesn't matter. They're the kid at the end of the day is important, and so are you, whoever's listening to this. So thank you for that. Is there anything else you want to say about kid dynamics in general, kids in general? Just let let me know what your thoughts are.

SPEAKER_00 31:22

Well, I I I think that thinking back to how when I grew up in kid dynamics and it just felt so very natural, didn't feel like anything was being like forced. And I think that's a very important thing for kids. It's just there's a lot of outside influence for kids nowadays, and having something that doesn't feel forced is so important. And so I'm I'm really passionate about kid dynamics because it never felt like, oh, well, you have to believe this thing or you have to see it this way. The whole point of kid dynamics is to find a self-discovery through the themes and through the virtues and values that we teach. And I think that's so important for these kids nowadays. They're put to so many different influences, and it's so vital that they can find their own way and their own meaning with these words.

SPEAKER_01 32:12

And live their life on their terms. Yes, so important. Yes, which a lot of them do, but they don't know whether they're doing it anyway. But just conscious living, conscious kids, conscious parenting, conscious coaching, conscious teaching, just being more aware of what's happening and making them feel important. So thank you for that feedback. And yeah, that's good. Just take a moment to reflect on today's episode about living dynamically around kid dynamics and how will you make it these insights your own. What will you become from this? Can't

Reflection, Sharing, And Closing

SPEAKER_01 32:54

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SPEAKER_00 33:45

Yes, thank you for in letting me inspire you to make it.

SPEAKER_01 33:50

Yes. You don't know how much. And and sometimes, like I say to Makoda, you sometimes you'll never know what it means until you experience it yourself in whatever capacity. And I think even you being a teacher is realizing when you start caring for the well being of kids, the importance of that. It just helps you in a motherly role, regardless of what we label it as. Yes, 100%. Yes. All right. So until next time, make it a dynamic day. Make it a dynamic day. Thanks for joining us. Bye for now. Bye bye.